I used to love taking these quizzes in my magazines. Here’s one we can all relate to: Vulnerability. It sounds scary- but it’s actually something to aspire for. No one can relate to perfection. Vulnerability allows you to be true, to be real, to have faith, and to be fearful in a healthy way. How do you deal with vulnerability? Take the quiz to find out.
1. Your boss asks you to give a speech in front of a crowd of people about a topic you feel passionately about. Do you…
a. Lie and say, “I can’t. I have to have major dental work that day. I made the appointment months ago.”
b. Think about it for a minute, but decide it’s really not in your comfort zone. Talk about all the ways you will help with the presentation without speaking.
c. Take a deep breath and commit to giving your all to the speech. You’ll take it as an opportunity for growth and development.
2. A coworker of yours admits she’s been having a really rough time with her relationship. You think you know exactly what she could do to work on the problem. Do you…
a. Tell her all about how your relationships have been good because you’ve been so committed to working hard.
b. Share your own story of relationship ups and downs, trying to make a connection with her and help her feel better about her situation. Passionately give her the advice and find yourself a little annoyed if she chooses not to follow it.
c. Validate her feelings, tell her you can relate to her troubles (without going into detail), and ask what would be the best way for you to support her.
3. You get an invitation to a dinner party you’d love to go to, but you won’t know anyone there except the hostess. Do you…
a. Make an excuse that’s so convincing you even believe yourself.
b. Apologize and admit you’re uncomfortable going because you don’t know many people. You suggest maybe she could stick by you at the party? Or you could bring a friend?
c. Push through your uncomfort, put on your most fabulous dress, and promise yourself you will talk to at least two new people. After all, aren’t we all just always in the same boat?
4. You’ve been struggling with an issue you’re dying to get an outside opinion about. Do you…
a. Turn to the next person who’ll lend an ear so you will feel better immediately.
b. Talk to the friend you know will tell you exactly what will make you feel better, even if she hasn’t been all that trustworthy in the past.
c. Express your feelings to one of your most trusted friends, asking her to please just let you bounce your thoughts off of her. You’ll simply need her support.
5. You’re just beginning a new relationship. Things are going really well, and you want to introduce him to your family, but you’re not sure if he’s feeling as committed as you are. Do you…
a. Forget it. You’d rather not ruin a good thing.
b. Try to convince him it’s not a big deal to meet the family so he will go without feeling too overwhelmed.
c. Ask him if he would be comfortable involving your families in your relationship. Keep an open mind to his thoughts, and let your faith take over your fears.
Ok. Are you ready for your HONEST score?
Mostly A’s: You’re an avoider. You hate the feelings of fear and vulnerability, and you’d rather escape unharmed. You’re an avid excuse-maker, and you’re content to miss out on opportunities for happiness and growth in the name of feeling comfortable. Sorry to break it to you, but the best medicine for you will be to face those fears.
Mostly B’s: You’re a bit of a controller. You’d like to change and manipulate situations to best fit how you pictured them. You are comfortable in a low-risk environment. You’d rather not throw caution to the wind, even if it means your opportunities are stiffled.
Mostly C’s: You’re vulnerable. People can connect with you. Friends like how relatable and humble you are. You may be afraid, but you go for it anyway. You’ve embraced the unknown and left everything up to faith. You’re trusting that every life event is part of your journey. You’re not afraid to let your truth be known.
*Oh, and by the way, I’m not claiming perfection here. I’m a former Type A Avoider with Mostly B Controlling tendencies and always struggling and working toward a Type C. Can you relate?